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April 2008 - Issue #67
Publisher, Larry James - Author, Speaker, Relationship Coach

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In this issue

•  A Personal Message from Larry James
•  LoveNotes for Lovers
•  Featured Relationship Article - A Strawberry Malt and 3 Squeezes, Please!
•  Relationship "Book-of-the-Month" - The Tender Heart: Conquering Your Insecurity
•  Relationship Humor
•  Bride & Groom of the Month! - View their photo gallery!
•  Guy Finley's "Key Lesson"
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•  Contact Information - Tell us what you like best about LoveNotes for Lovers

SMALL Larry James Pic A Personal Message from Larry James:

The #1 problem in relationships is "Undelivered Communications!" Withholding important conversation from your partner nearly always proves to be the destructive force behind the, "My partner will not listen to me!" or "My partner will not talk to me" complaint.

Instead of complaining, deliver the communication - in a loving way - to your partner.

We withhold for many reasons. The main reason seems to be that when we do get up the courage to say what needs to be said - something our partner would rather not hear - our partner gets into the conversation and begins to deny or justify their position or shift the blame to the other partner without accepting any responsibility for their share of the problem.

"Let the disagreement begin!" Usually the decibel level goes off the meter and the argument escalates! The result would be different if both partners would only listen when their partner speaks.

Communicating is not optional. It is an absolute necessity for the success of the relationship. Not communicating with your relationship partner - or not allowing them access to your thoughts and feelings - can exact a heavy price. A communications gap doesn't only undermine the potential of the relationship; it can, and usually will eventually destroy the relationship.

Here are a few quick guidelines:

1. Make an appointment to talk.
2. Only one person should talk and the other must listen, then you take turns.
3. The partner who listens needs to repeat what they heard to avoid misunderstandings.
4. Criticism, sarcasm and contempt are out of bounds.
5. Suggest several solutions for solving the problem.
6. Reconnect with a hug to build a bridge to reconcilation.
7. Give up being right! Stop blaming your partner. Accept responsibility for your share of the problem.

For complete detail of this process, read, "Communicating is Not Optional!

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Insecurities bring forth jealousy, which, is a cry for more love. It is within your rights to ask for more affection when self-doubts' surface, however, the indirect way that jealousy asks for it is counterproductive. Excessive possessiveness is inappropriate. Jealousy is the surest way to drive away the very person you may fear losing.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  For Singles Only - You must learn to be alone and happy before you can be together with someone else and be happy. Your happiness only and always depends upon how you feel when you are alone, never how you think you will feel when you are with someone else. Healthy love relationships require that you be strong enough to resist rushing to your next relationship before all the hurts of the past are healed. Healing takes time. Doing healing alone or with the assistance of a skilled professional, will always get you where you want to go much quicker.

Be alone in the short term for the extraordinary long term benefits. Learn what it takes to be in a healthy relationship with yourself. When you get comfortable with being alone; when the feeling that you must be in a relationship to feel complete disappears, most likely you will be ready for another relationship. The path to a healthy love relationship becomes more clear when you put your own well being ahead of having to be in a relationship to feel good about yourself.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Intentionally add a little pizzazz to your love relationship every day. Do it in playful ways. Exercise your sense of humor. It enlivens your spirit, breeds happiness and causes you and the one you love to experience fully the love you feel for one another. Do things that make each other smile. Smiles and knowing nods from your lover create a sense of unity that adds longevity to your relationship.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  When relationships are fun they are easier to be appreciated. It takes steady work and a specific intention to have them be that way. It takes commitment, open communications and much love for one another. We must plan to have fun together. Playing and having fun together isn't so much what we do. It's how we feel about who we are with and what we do.

Two pairs of lips are for kissing. It is an essential element for communicating love and affection in your relationship. A kiss speaks many different meanings to its lover; when it is missing, many interpretations as to the reasons for its absence surface. These interpretations can become invisible wedges that prevent love from expressing. When love is present, kissing is an important part of expressing that love. Pay attention to it. Kissing does not always have to be a prelude to making love.

From the book, "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing!" by Larry James

From the book, "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing!" by Larry James

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Read "A Strawberry Malt and 3 Squeezes, Please!" - April 4th would have been my mother's birthday. She is not with us anymore however to honor her memory, I thought you might like to read the story I wrote about her that appeared in "A 2nd Helping of Chicken Soup for the Soul."

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The Tender Heart: Conquering Your Insecurity The Tender Heart: Conquering Your Insecurity - Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. - In simple language, the authors explains that insecurity is not a flaw or shortcoming, but rather a personality trait that reflects both temperament and life experiences. And, most important, he shows how insecurity can be conquered so that one can thrive - especially in work and love.

Larry's Review: Insecure people rarely find themselves in healthy love relationships. This book looks at insecurity under a microscope, disects this debilitating dis-ease and offers practical healing solutions that work. Highly recommended.

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Sample: There is no human being on earth with the power to grant us what our heart of hearts longs for: the end of that empty feeling that as we are, we are simply not enough. And the struggle to resolve this unwanted feeling -- by selling our souls to win the approval of others -- is to run off a cliff while chasing the end of a rainbow!

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On their 40th wedding anniversary and during the banquet celebrating it, Tom was asked to give his friends a brief account of the benefits of a marriage of such long duration.

"Tell us Tom, just what is it you have learned from all those wonderful years with your wife?"

Tom responds, "Well, I've learned that marriage is the best teacher of all. It teaches you loyalty, forbearance, meekness, self-restraint, forgiveness -- and a great many other qualities you wouldn't have needed if you'd stayed single."

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