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July 2008 - Issue #70
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•  A Personal Message from Larry James
•  LoveNotes for Lovers
•  Featured Relationship Article - Make Some Plans. . . Together!
•  Relationship "Book-of-the-Month" - The Credit Diet: How to Shed Unwanted Debt and Achieve Fiscal Fitness
•  Relationship Humor
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SMALL Larry James Pic A Personal Message from Larry James:

Arguments call attention to the stuff in our life that need to be worked on. It is one of the greatest turnoffs for great intimacy.

Arguing about a problem rarely settles anything. Immature people sometimes start arguments to avoid cose intimacy. It is difficult to reach agreement when both love partners are angry and holding on to their position, choosing to be right instead of happy!

Joseph Joubert once said, "The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress." The rules of argument say that one must win and one must lose. This is a bad idea and does little to support a healthy love relationship.

You must have agreements about how you communicate about issues and concerns. A few suggested agreements are: stop defending your position and only listen, don't raise your voice (especially watch your TONE of voice), don't argue. . . have a conversation "about" the issues and concerns. . . one that demonstrates respect for your love partnerŐs right to have his or her own opinion about things.

Let the other person fully express what is on his or her mind. Take turns doing this. Negotiate a win-win solution, agree to disagree, agree to support each other in keeping your agreements, agree to call attention to the fact that your love partner may be skirting the issues or bringing up "other" stuff to avoid the "real" issue. (Have an agreement about HOW you do this.)

If what your partner is saying is causing you anger or resentment, then have agreements about how to talk about that without intentionally saying "hurtful" things. There are more, but this will get you started.

A calm, low-volume discussion is recommended, the kind that does not seek to make one love partner wrong and the other right. It is a discussion that searches for understanding, one that releases tension and facilitates an emotional breakthrough that can help your relationship evolve to a new level of love and understanding. It takes TWO to tangle; TWO to have an argument!!

No one can "argue" if there is no one to argue with. This is not just your love partner's problem. It's yours, too! You both are into being RIGHT or you wouldn't argue. This way of being with each other obviously doesn't work! Don't do this to your relationship!

Someone once said, "There are three sides to every story - yours, mine and the truth!" Wise love partners give up being right in favor of searching for the truth. An argument is NEVER more important than the relationship! It will only cause intimacy to become an endangered pleasure.

If you want really close intimacy. . . reach some new agreements about how to talk about your disagreements.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Insecurities bring forth jealousy, which, is a cry for more love. It is within your rights to ask for more affection when self-doubts' surface, however, the indirect way that jealousy asks for it is counterproductive. Excessive possessiveness is inappropriate. Jealousy is the surest way to drive away the very person you may fear losing.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  When misunderstandings surface, it is easy to misinterpret what is really going on. Remember that how you express your anger is being translated by someone who has no idea how you feel. It is as if love partners speak two different languages. It is often difficult to remember this when you are in the heat of battle. Wait for the dust to settle, then ask your lover to translate their feelings in a way that you can listen. . . with understanding.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  To live peacefully together in a responsible way, we must learn to understand that we are only responsible for our own individual thoughts, ideas, attitudes, decisions and actions and never for those of our love partner. To neglect our own responsibilities in the relationship in favor of our love partner's responsibility is codependency.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  The psychological importance of working through painful resentments must not be underestimated. When old patterns are broken, a whole new world of possibility is born. Not to release and rise above suppressed feelings of hurt and anger is to remain imprisoned by them.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Healthy, committed love partners will say, "I'm sorry. I was wrong," and mean it, rather than hold on to being right or walking away.

From the book, "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing!" by Larry James

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Larry's Review: With the economy the way it is, this would be a good time to read this book!

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Sample: We must look upon our knowledge of others who have hurt us as a special kind of doorway, and not as a potential psychological weapon. To use it as a doorway means that we can learn how to walk past the parts of us that want to punish others for their act of ignorance against us. And we are helped to make this more compassionate choice by our remembrance that the first person to be injured by any dark design acted against another is the one who carries it out.

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