LoveNotes for Lovers

3 Sample Weekly or Monthly Columns for the Media. . .

Sample #1. . .

Larry James

LoveNote. . . Ask yourself: "Would I want to be in a relationship with me?" "Am I someone who I would want to be with forever?" Answer honestly. What comes up is always worth working on. Focus on doing what you can to make the good things better and give up behavior that has you curious enough to ask in the first place.

LoveNote. . . Tender moments of togetherness are necessary for a love relationship to grow. They must be tempered with the balance that the benefits of separateness also promote. The balance between closeness and separateness must be respected.

LoveNote. . . Intimate lovers don't have to say words to be understood. Often a knowing glance or touch can say all that needs to be said to ignite passion worthy of pursuit.

LoveNote. . . There is comfort in solitude. Love partners must learn to cherish their separateness while being together. A committed love relationship fosters respect; respect for each others' right to have some time to themselves.

LoveNote. . . Love is embracing differences and discovering ways in which to build a common lifestyle, share decision-making, and take equal responsibility for the results.

LoveNote. . . When you have disagreements, watch for the appropriate opportunity to share what is really in your heart. Little, if any progress can be made during meltdown. Allow a time for cooling off. This is a time when you must work together to create a space for each love partner to express their feelings without any fear that it isn't safe to do so. Listen. Communicate. Give up your attachment to being right and settle for a win/win solution that serves both love partners equally.

Larry James

LoveNote. . . Trust creates breakthroughs in having relationships work. Among lovers, trust invites the spark of the Divine to ignite their passion. Trust keeps the magic of love alive.

LoveNote. . . A kiss has been described as the height of voluptuousness. It has a lovely, luscious and lusty legacy. Kissing is an act of quiet intimacy and often borders on the erotic. It can be brief and cool or lengthy and hot. It can be highly romantic, building to a succulent crescendo of emotion and passion or passed off as something that is expected and therefore no big deal. Two pairs of lips are for kissing. It is an essential element for communicating love and affection in your relationship. A kiss speaks many different meanings to its lover; when it is missing, many interpretations as to the reasons for its absence surface. These interpretations can become invisible wedges that prevent love from expressing. When love is present, kissing is an important part of expressing that love. Pay attention to it. Kissing does not always have to be a prelude to making love.

LoveNote. . . Affirmation ~ I am learning to be conscious when I am with my love partner. Many times in the past, I only appeared to be listening. Now I listen. I am conscious of, pay attention to and really listen, with genuine interest, to my lover; my best friend. This new attitude of attention and understanding gives our relationship substance. It gives it depth. It becomes charged with right intention.

LoveNote. . . When you are in a relationship with someone and both of you are angry, chaos abounds. Two broken people can't fix each other! They can only work on the problem. "What is the problem," you ask? The answer is looking back at you in the mirror. Recovery comes from ceasing to be one of the problems.

LoveNote. . . People who love each other learn to respect their inherent differences. Men and women think, feel and communicate differently. Understanding this is the key. With understanding comes acceptance. With acceptance comes the ultimate expression of unconditional love.

Larry James

LoveNote. . . There is power in a hug. It's a great gift and one size fits all. Hugs bring people together. It can be given for any occasion and it's easy to exchange. This expression of human touch can silently speak forgiveness, sensitivity, acceptance, caring, healing and love.

LoveNote. . . Love is something you do. Love is as love does. Never be content with only telling your love partner you love them; promise to show it in expressions of affection. Plan to be spontaneously affectionate.

LoveNote. . . Committed love partners know it is wise to plan their time together. Go on a date. Talk about it. Plan it in advance. Don't wait until the last moment. Take turns planning these events. Lovers show their consideration for each other this way. To do otherwise is to take your togetherness for granted.

LoveNote. . . Affirmation ~ I have a relationship that is a self-sustaining vehicle for personal and spiritual growth; one that supports and encourages a positive climate for consistent change; one that offers patience, understanding and forgiveness when errors are made.

LoveNote. . . Feelings are always very real for the one who feels them. When your lover expresses feelings. . . validate them. Let them know that it is okay to feel that way, even when you disagree. When you invalidate your love partner's feelings, generally disagreement follows. Never argue with anyone's feelings. It's an argument you can never win.

LoveNote. . . Disagreements are a signal that your love partner needs care and understanding. Develop a way of listening that allows you to hear the anger without becoming defensive. Because they are angry does not mean you are not loved. You can love and be angry at the same time.

Copyright © - Larry James. Reprinted by permission. ~ Adapted from the books, "LoveNotes for Lovers" and "How to Really Love the One You're With" by Larry James, professional speaker and author. Subscribe to Larry's FREE "LoveNotes for Lovers" eZINE. CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. 800-725-9223. E-mail: LarryJames@CelebrateLove.com, www.CelebrateLove.com

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