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September 2004 - Issue #24
Publisher, Larry James - Author, Speaker, Relationship Coach

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•  A Personal Message from Larry James
•  LoveNotes for Lovers - Tips & Tidbits on Love
•  Featured Relationship Article - Forgiveness. . . What's it For?
•  Relationship "Book-of-the-Month" - Financial Peace
•  Bonus Book - How to Really Love the One You're With
•  Relationship Humor - Just for Grins!
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Raising your voice to your partner (some would call this yelling), is the worse form of communication. With men, often a louder volume demonstrates an assertion that they are in the right or they want to make sure they get your attention. This is not necessarily a correct assertion.

It is emotionally abusive, unfair and shows a high level of disrespect for your love partner. When your partner increases the decibels, whether man or woman, back off physically from them, lower your voice to slightly more than a whisper sending a signal that you are not willing to listen if the yelling continues.

A sudden pause or change in vocal tone can have the same effect on a preoccupied mind that turning off a TV has on a sleeping viewer. They both awaken.

Let them know that you are willing to mutually discuss the situation in a calm and respectful manner. If you cannot peacefully reach this agreement at that moment, leave the scene of the disagreement. Walk away.

Generally speaking, a louder voice demands attention. If you go away, you deny them what they so disrespectfully demand. It is a wise partner who withdraws rather than becoming a partner in a shouting match.

The other side of the coin is this: you eventually must talk about the situation. Allow a cooling off period. To stuff the issue is unhealthy and can drive a wedge between both of you.

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LoveNote for Lovers. . .  For Women Only - Push the pause button. Sometimes the best way to get your man to open up is to shut up. Never ask, "What are you thinking?" or "Tell me what you're feeling." Have patience. Let conversation happen. That way he will know it's his choice to communicate and will be less likely to be stressed out about piping up with something that is on his mine.

So. . . what if he never pipes up? Be his teacher. Tell him how you feel and how it feels when he doesn't communicate. Tell him in a very loving way. Perhaps he will get the hint. If he doesn't, you have choices. You can live with it or get coaching.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .   Once you've settled into being a couple, it's tempting to put your relationship on cruise control and cop the attitude that as long as your partner isn't complaining, then everything must be alright. Familiarity breeds complacency. What you take for granted, disappears!

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Never expect your partner to guess why you are upset at them. You will only be setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. Your partner cannot read your mind. Having to explain why you are upset does not take anything away from the relationship. Say what needs to be said in a loving way. Hints don't work.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Every day is a gift. So why not take pleasure in unwrapping it? You can savor special moments together by making ordinary things extraordinary. Candlelight isn't just for company. Champagne isn't just for special occasions. Live life to the fullest. Work together to never have an ordinary day.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Learn to appreciate the intuitive natiure of your relationship and act on it immediately. Learn how this energy talks to you (in dreams, flashes of images or words, goose bumps, mood changes) and nurture the connection.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  The best way to predict the future of your relationship is to invent it. If we can accurately extend our intentions into the future, then we will be more efficient and better suited for any unexpected disappointments.

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Featured Relationship Article

Forgiveness. . . What's it For? - Forgiveness is often misunderstood. We often think of forgiveness as something that someone who has done us wrong must ask of US. This article suggests that you focus on offering forgiveness TO the person who has wronged you as a healthy way of releasing the anger, resentment, and more.

Read the complete article. . .

Is your relationship rocky? - You are invited to arrange for a personal relationship coaching session by telephone with Larry James. Let fresh eyes discover new solutions and offer suggestions that will help you with your nagging relationship issues. Be prepared to truthfully answer the questions Larry asks you about your relationship. Larry James pulls no punches. He tells it like it is. If the truth hurts. . . be grateful.

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Financial Peace - Dave Ramsey - One of the top 3 things couples argue about most is money! A practical and spiritual guide on how to become free from financial stress draws on biblical wisdom to discuss how to get out of debt, simple rules of investing, using the principle of contentment, and more. Loaded with inspirational insights that come from personal experience, this book is the most valuable purchase a debt-ridden couple can make.

Larry's Review: I personally attended one of Dave's seminars and can say that coupled with this book was one of the most financially rewarding experiences of my life. Highly recommended.
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