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June 2008 - Issue #69
Publisher, Larry James - Author, Speaker, Relationship Coach

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In this issue

•  A Personal Message from Larry James
•  LoveNotes for Lovers
•  Featured Relationship Article - Resolving Conflict
•  Relationship "Book-of-the-Month" - The Essential Laws of Fearless Living - Special Offer!
•  Relationship Humor
•  Bride & Groom of the Month! - View their photo gallery!
•  Guy Finley's "Key Lesson"
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Unresolved conflict paralyzes togetherness; it keeps you from connecting sexually and in all other ways.

When issues arise, many couples focus on "WHO did what?" Blame never fully resolves anything; it keeps you stuck.

Staying away from this type of impasse is much easier than getting out of it once you become entangled in it.

Mature love partners who are committed to open and honest communications focus on "WHAT went wrong?" They talk without throwing darts at each other.

They listen with understanding and acceptance. They discuss healthy solutions and immediately put them into practice.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Your happiness can never come from someone else. It only comes from taking care of yourself, with feeling good about yourself and knowing that the time you invest in your own personal growth is one of the greatest contributions you can make to the relationship you have with your lover.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  It is okay to say, "No." It is not okay to say, "Yes," when your heart tells you to say otherwise. It is not possible to fulfill every request made of you. Compulsively saying yes is potentially self-destructive; it is behavior that signals co-dependency. To let go of feeling guilty when you say, "No," is a new way of being that takes practice.

Say 'no' to meeting the demands and needs of everyone except yourself. Stand up for you. Cease being a conspirator in your own abuse. Your relationship with someone else does not depend upon giving up yourself. You give of yourself to the other. You never give up yourself to the other. Healthy, mature love does not make us less than we are individually.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  One of the secrets to a healthy love relationship is to never take more than you give.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  The goal of resolving conflict in a relationship is not victory or defeat. It is reaching a mutual understanding through open discussions that benefits both love partners. It requires letting go of our need to be right. Mutually solving problems brings love partners closer together. It allows for negotiation and compromise. It promotes positive momentum.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Healthy, committed love partners will say, "I'm sorry. I was wrong," and mean it, rather than hold on to being right or walking away.

From the book, "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing!" by Larry James

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Read "Resolving Conflict" - Conflict is inevitable. How we handle it is what makes the difference. When the structure of a love relationship breaks down, while fault may not necessarily be evenly distributed, both partners must ultimately accept equal responsibility. You are in this together.

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The Essential Laws of Fearless Living The Essential Laws of Fearless Living: Find the Power to Never Feel Powerless Again - Guy Finley - Discover the wise and gentle presence of a bright new power that lives within you. This book is a step-by-step guide to realizing your ultimate potential as a human being. As you become immersed in the book, and your understanding begins to deepen and flower, a smile will fill your heart as loneliness, stress, anger, and problems are gradually replaced with contentment, ease, compassion, and a freedom that never fades away.

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Sample: Just as a swarm of flies that darkens the sky is swept aside by a single breeze, so too can the pervasive negative states that darken one's heart and mind be brushed away -- if we will only dare to come awake to ourselves and ask that tormenting spirit a single question: Upon what is your authority based? is the crème de la crème of intimacy Websites!
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Relationship Humor

Your marriage is in trouble if your wife says, "You're only interested in one thing," and you can't remember what it is. - Milton Berle

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A widow recently married to a widower, was accosted by a friend who laughingly remarked, "I suppose, like all men who have been married before, your husband sometimes talks about his first wife?"

"Oh, not any more," the other woman replied.

"What stopped him?" asked the first.

"I started talking about my next husband," replied the second woman.

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