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February 2009 - Issue #77
Publisher, Larry James - Author, Speaker, Relationship Coach

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In this issue

•  A Personal Message from Larry James
•  LoveNotes for Lovers
•  Featured Relationship Article - Learning to Love the One You're With!
•  Relationship "Book-of-the-Month" - Bonus Feature - 2 books this month!
•  Relationship Humor
•  Bride & Groom-of-the-Month! - View their photo gallery!
•  Guy Finley's "Key Lesson"
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•  Contact Information - Tell us what you like best about LoveNotes for Lovers

SMALL Larry James Pic A Personal Message from Larry James:

It is okay to say, "No." It is not okay to say, "Yes," when your heart tells you to say otherwise.

It is not possible to fulfill every request made of you. Compulsively saying yes is potentially self-destructive; it is behavior that signals co-dependency.

To let go of feeling guilty when you say, "No," is a new way of being that takes practice. Say 'no' to meeting the demands and needs of everyone except yourself.

Stand up for you. Cease being a conspirator in your own abuse. Your relationship with someone else does not depend upon giving up yourself.

You give of yourself to the other. You never give up yourself to the other. Healthy, mature love does not make us less than we are individually.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  You never have time to do the things you do not want to do. Remember that the next time you get bogged down in unnecessary activities that keep you from doing what you know must be done to enrich your relationship with your love partner. You always have time to do the things you want to do. Always. You always have choice. Think about it!

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  For Men Only - Never be someone your lover knows too well. In other words, let her know who you really are and always have there be more of you for her to discover. Never let it be predictable. Let it be spontaneous. Spontaneity demonstrates that you are paying attention to her and the relationship. This may help to keep her from feeling taken for granted. Be full of surprises; the kind of surprises you would want from your lover.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  If you ever reach a point in your relationship where you think you have nothing good to say about your love partner, close your mouth until you think of something good to say. . . then say it. You tell yourself what to think. . . tell yourself to 'shut up' when the temptation to speak ill of your lover occurs.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  For Singles Only - Letting go is not complicated. It is simple. Not easy. Simply identify the situation you want to let go of and ask yourself, "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" If the answer is "no," then that's it! Let go. Telling someone is a bonus. Detachment is only for you, never for another. It promotes healing. Choice is always present when you let go. You do not have to let go and there are consequences.

From the book, "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing!" by Larry James

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Read "Learning to Love the One You're With!" - If you have recently come out of a relationship, heed this word of caution. It may be wise to distance yourself from relationships for a while. Take a breather. The tendency of new singles often is quickly to find someone else to be with. Most ministers and mental health professionals agree that that is not a good idea. It is a colossal mistake!

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Featured Relationship "Books-of-the-Month"

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Letting Go: A Little Bit at a Time - Guy Finley - My friend Guy Finley has written a beautiful new book that is being simultaneously released today in 142 countries. This book presents a radical new approach to help you realize the true abundance, success, and deep love we all desire so much. Guy is so well respected by his peers, that I, along with more than 70 other experts, am working with Guy today to get the word out so that everyone can enjoy Life's gifts to the fullest. Click on the link below now to find out how to get this new book, along with 75 free bonus gifts, for under $10 from today.

Larry's Review: Guy Finley's "Letting Go: A Little Bit at a Time" allows you to absorb all of the bits and pieces required for you to take the next BIG step of letting go and moving on to what's next! Brilliant! Carry it with you for instant reference.

Letting Go: A Little Bit at a Time

Truth Heals: What You Hide Can Hurt You Truth Heals: What You Hide Can Hurt You - Deborah King, Ph.D. - Millions of us live with chronic and debilitating pain or disease, and sadly, that number is growing every day. In this book which was originally self-published, Deborah explores the relationship between the suppression of truth and how this later manifests into pain or illness. Using her years of experience as an expert healer, Dr. King creates a roadmap for people to learn how to recognize and release emotional blockages, share truth in a safe and healing manner, and unlock the power of truth without reliving negative experiences or causing more harm. Through client histories, celebrity profiles, and her own remarkable journey, the author demonstrates how anyone can release deep-seated layers of denial, fear, and anger in order to heal the mind and body.

Larry's Review: If you have hurts that need to be healed. . . you must read this book!

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Guy Finley's "Key Lessons" - The wisdom and wit of Guy Finley. Don't miss this opportunity to brighten your life! At every regular meeting at Guy's Foundation in southern Oregon, there's a special board in front of the class where the Key Lesson for that meeting is written out for everyone to consider before, during, and after the talk. Book mark this page and return every day for a breath of fresh air & something new to think about!

Sample: One of the things that makes uncertainty hard to bear is the fear that always seems to come with it, like hard rains we expect will fall from heavy clouds. But such fear is neither a natural nor necessary part of uncertainty, and this you can prove to yourself. Learn to watch how one's own agitated imagination produces the very storm it fears may come. To catch and cancel this self-produced nightmare is to reclaim your natural confidence and calm.

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Relationship Humor

Two Norwegians from Wisconsin are sittin' in a boat on Dead Lake, fishing and suckin' down beer, when all of a sudden Sven says, "I think I'm going to divorce my wife. She hasn't spoken to me in over six months."

Ole sips his beer and says, "You better think it over. Women like that are hard to find."

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