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LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Do you suffer from audioapathy? Effective listening is a choice. Audioapathy is a word I coined to describe the condition often experienced when partners become apathetic about listening when their partner talks with them. It is a dreaded dis-ease that can poison your relationship. Although it appears that men are more affected than women, some women also get it.

Hearing is involuntary. You can be sound asleep and still hear something or someone, but listening is voluntary. It is an intellectual and emotional choice. It implies effective communication between the sender and the receiver, which hearing does not.

It is a wise partner who, when their partner is talking, puts down the evening newspaper or turns the TV off, makes eye contact and truly listens to what their partner is saying. Very wise. It may be difficult to listen to what they have to say, however, if the truth hurts - be grateful. When your partner talks, listen for the truth about what they are saying instead of going on the defensive. That only keeps you stuck.

It may take courage for your partner to express their feelings if they haven't been used to doing so. To immediately defend your own position (or to disagree or argue) invalidates your partner's feelings and usually serves to turn off future sharing possibilities. Listen for the opportunity to assist the relationship by taking responsibility for what you may be doing that trips their trigger and causes them to make a choice to feel the way they do.

Apathetic listeners breed contempt, resentment and often the person who desperately needs to be heard eventually shuts down. A lack of effective communication is the number one problem in relationships.

Listen more and talk less. You can't learn anything when you're talking. How do you spell success in a relationship? Be wise.


Featured Relationship Article

Put the Toilet Seat DOWN! (For Men Only) - Although it doesn't rate up there with the unisex restroom in the Ally McBeal television show, the signage for the toilets at one Phoenix, Arizona advertising-public relations firm is an eye-catcher.

Instead of the plain old "Men" and "Women" on the politically correct male and female door signs, the restrooms entries at Cramer-Krasselt are adorned with tasteful, nearly look-alike 3-inch square photos of a toilet. There is one difference -- one has the seat up and the other has the seat down.

Is someone trying to tell us something?

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Featured Relationship "Book-of-the-Month"
1001 Ways to Be Romantic 1001 Ways to Be Romantic - Gregory J.P. Godek - Truly a best seller from "America's Romance Coach!" This book will help you if you are bankrupt in the romance department. Pick a number between 1 and 1001 and get busy re-creating romance in your relationship. Also check out 1001 More Ways to be Romantic.

Larry's Review: Need an idea that will help you put the romance back into your relationship? You must read both of Greg's books. Do what I do. Pick up one of these books and surprise your partner with some creative romance. I've known Greg Godek for over eight years. He knows more about romance than anyone I know. Highly recommended! To purchase this book click here.

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Q:  How do men exercise on the beach?
A:  By sucking in their stomachs every time they see a bikini.

Q:  What's the best way to force a man to do sit ups?
A:  Put the remote control between his toes.

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