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July 2003 - Issue #13
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•  A Personal Message from Larry James
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•  Relationship "Books-of-the-Month" - Design Your Destiny & The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance
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Relationship derailment is a troubling phenomenon. However, it's time for the death of finger pointing.

I don't want to hear, "But, you don't know what he or she did!" Blame in a healthy love relationship doesn't work!

There is a payoff for everything you do. The payoff for pointing a finger at your partner and blaming him/her for your relationship condition is: you don't have to take responsibility for your share of the problem.

Relationship problems are shared problems. To manage the complexity of a stormy relationship you must accept responsibility for your share of the problem. When you can do that, the problem is half solved. Not only will this change you, it will change your relationship with your partner.

Perhaps your relationship deserves a powerful new focus.

Ideally, having a partner who understands the concept of team and the responsibility that goes with it contributes greatly to creating an greater attitude of team, which sheds light on solutions instead of keeping the focus on the problem.

True love allows for disagreements. Acknowledging when you are wrong is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength.

If your relationship is off track, the cost of complacency is obviously substantial. Waiting for your partner to "come around," may prove futile. Go first. You must take the first step while you are still afraid. Doing so helps to inoculate your relationship against a relapse.

Your relationship priorities are clear now, right? Go first and do what's right! It will make your perceptions clearer, your judgments sounder, your life work better and you will be closer to your heart's desire; a healthy love relationship.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Forgive and forget is an impossibility. Forgive? Yes! You forgive because it sets you free; the first step toward healing. Forget? No! You always remember. Keep your word. Trust is a fragile issue. A breach of trust is never forgotten. Be careful of the words you speak in your relationship. They cannot be taken back. Each word will be burned into the memory of your love partner.

Think before you speak. Words create. They either build up or tear down. Speak only words of love. Words can come back to haunt you or they can become the way two lovers express sensitivity, warmth, understanding, acceptance and love.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  We are strongest when we are letting go of what doesn't work. When we open our mind to behave in a different way, we create the freedom to love. To open our hearts to love is perhaps the greatest gift we can give to ourselves.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  When you have disagreements, watch for the appropriate opportunity to share what is really in your heart. Little, if any progress can be made during meltdown. Allow a time for cooling off. This is a time when you must work together to create a space for each love partner to express their feelings without any fear that it isn't safe to do so. Listen. Communicate. Give up your attachment to being right and settle for a win/win solution that serves both love partners equally.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  For Men Only - For Men Only ~ You must learn to understand the heart of a woman. When she is hurting she may say she wants you to go away. Go to her. Hold her. She doesn't need you to fix her hurt. . . only listen. Listen with understanding. . . only listen.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Only one thing activates, then converts the negative energy of anger into positive energy. . . intention. The intention must be to do something different; something that works. When you discover that what you have been doing isn't working, the only logical thing to do is to do something different.

We are talking about change. Yes, it is uncomfortable to change. You must decide which is the most uncomfortable. The same energy you expend on anger, when re-directed, can help free you of the negative emotions you feel when you are angry. Freeing yourself of these negative emotions is something you do. It is never dependent upon whoever or whatever you think is the cause of your anger.

From the book, LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing by Larry James.

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For YOUR Eyes Only - Have you ever sat down, discouraged and out of steam, stuck and with a sense of hopelessness about your relationship? Have you ever felt like you needed to express what you felt? Have you ever taken the opportunity to write some notes to yourself about how you are feeling, even the feelings you feel uncomfortable sharing with anyone? Some call it "journaling." Here are some guidelines to help you begin answering these important questions.

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Design Your Destiny: Shape Your Future In 12 Easy Steps - Guy Finley - Master the invisible forces shaping your future. Make all new choices. Create confidence. Watch doubts disappear. Revised, reformatted, and expanded edition. Over 25% new material, including "5 Steps To Complete Freedom From Stress." Read an excerpt. More books by Guy Finley.

Larry's Review: This book has truly brightened my corner. Thank you, Guy, for letting your Light shine.

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The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance - Nancy Fagan, M.S. - Embarking on a luscious, loving relationship shouldn't be merely a "romantic" notion! It's never too late to take that special someone's breath away! In this ebook, Nancy presents an old-fashioned yet thoroughly modern guide to aiming Cupid's arrows at your love life, no matter what your age, gender, or romantic taste.

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