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April 2004 - Issue #19
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SMALL Larry James Pic A Personal Message from Larry James:

We use reasons to explain away why we don't want to do something different; reasons why we don't want to change. If we know that doing something different might help the situation, not doing something different is called "stupid." The best reason why has never solved the problem.

Often reasons why are understandable, however what is not understandable is why we feel the need to have our lives dominated by reasons why we didn't do something different instead of results. When we make the decision to go for results in our love relationships. . . that's the real moment we make a decision to grow and prosper.

You are responsible for your relationship. Only you. Not your partner. Granted they must also be working on changing the way they are being in the relationship, however the notion that your partner is at fault for the way you feel, and the direction the relationship is going is absurd.

We often get so busy working on trying to fix our love partner - an impossible task, I might add - that we forget that we are responsible for only fixing ourselves.

It is the mistaken belief that you must push your love relationship in the direction you think it should go that keeps you in a strained and unhappy relationship with it. Reality has its own effortless course, and you can either embrace its way or struggle endlessly with your way.

The goal of resolving conflict in a relationship is not victory or defeat. It is reaching a mutual understanding through open discussions that benefits both love partners. It requires letting go of our need to be right. Mutually solving problems brings love partners closer together. It allows for negotiation and compromise. It promotes positive momentum.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Affirmation - I have a love partner who is supportive of us making key choices together, fully listening to and learning from what each love partner has to say.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Change is always possible in our relationship because it is only and always a choice. Taking responsibility for our choices leads to a profound sense of freedom and inner peace.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  It's okay to feel angry. It is not okay to be consumed with anger. Anger is not something to be contained; it is something to be released. Express it with this caveat: consider the consequences of its power. Anger is something that can hurt if expressed with the intention to get even. Often we inflict our feelings of anger on the ones we love the most. Not a good idea. Everyone feels angry occasionally and everyone in the relationship feels its effect.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  You can gain much insight into the power of your attitudes in the stillness of looking inward. A quiet and peaceful mind takes form as a quiet and peaceful body. Your subconscious mind believes every word you say. Your words and thoughts govern how your world and your relationship will be.

Believe this and know that when problems surface; the first step is to look within. Take care to accept your share of the responsibility for the problem, then get busy doing what you can to work on the solution. Those who cannot imagine this to be true, spend most of their time and energy making sure everyone knows the problem is someone else's fault.

From the book, LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing by Larry James.

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Featured Relationship Article

My Partner Cheat? Never! - Twenty-nine red flags that often point a finger to a cheater.

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As You Wish - Carol Gates & Tina Shearon - Are your thoughts empowering or limiting? This short, modern-day fairy tale can help you recognize some of the thoughts which have been holding you back from being, doing, and having more in your relationships and everyday life. Learn how the subconscious mind, like a "genie," works. Then you can create more quickly and effectively the relationships that you desire.

Larry's Review: "As You Wish" proves that what you think about and speak about, you bring about! Be careful what you wish for in your relationships, you most likely will get it! One of my very favorite books! Highly recommended.
As You Wish

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Relationship Humor

The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once.

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I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury. - Groucho Marx

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What do you call an animal with 2 wives?

A cheetah! (groan!)

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