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May 2004 - Issue #20
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•  A Personal Message from Larry James
•  LoveNotes for Lovers - Tips for Healthy Relationships
•  Featured Relationship Article - Friends & Lovers
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SMALL Larry James Pic A Personal Message from Larry James:

You are the architect of your own discomfort. The secret is to never wallow in the suffering any longer than is necessary to learn the lesson the suffering presents.

When there are unsettled issues in a relationship, the major part of the solution, if not the very first step, is to communicate about them.

Be challenged by engaging in meaningful conversation. Talk about things that are important to your relationship. Don't leave anything out. Develop a relationship that creates the freedom to talk about what needs to be said, without arguments. . . only conversations. It's not easy. It takes giving your love partner the freedom to speak what is in his or her heart. It takes knowing that what they speak about is only their opinion, they have a right to it and are responsible for it. The challenge is to be okay with that.

Open and intimate conversation is the only way you can avoid the mistake of only giving what you would like to receive instead of giving what your love partner really needs. Negotiate for what you both want and need and respect the differences.

Read Communicating is Not Optional for some helpful tips!

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  In healthy love relationships, there is no second place. There is no longer any need to have one of you be number one and one of you be number two. Healthy people share. In a healthy love relationship, generosity expresses itself generously. Love partners are not afraid to share the spotlight.

Give up the idea of having to have any one of the two people who make up a relationship be subservient. When two people really love each other, they are not afraid to be their love partner's equal. Two people, each number one to each other and to the relationship, working together on similar things and accepting mutual responsibility when things are good and also when things are not so good, can only empower the relationship.

You give of yourself to the other. You never give up yourself to the other. When you are both number one, no one ever has to worry about competition in the relationship. When two people work together, they can always accomplish more.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  Affirmation For Men Only - I cultivate transparency of myself by being a master in the art of self-disclosure. I know that when the inclination to reveal myself to the one I love is blocked, I close myself to her and experience emotional difficulties. I promise to never hide behind a facade.

LoveNote for Lovers. . .  The fire of love will not burn on alone. It must be watched carefully. If we are to keep the fire of love alive, we must do whatever is necessary to keep the fuel for the flames replenished whatever the cost. Loves' fire feeds off the energy we put into keeping it burning!

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Featured Relationship Article

Friends and Lovers - Your love partner should be your best friend and lover. At the heart of love, there is a simple secret: the lover lets the beloved be free. The stronger and more secure they become, the more they are willing to be themselves while encouraging their love partner to do the same. Genuine unconditional love not only respects the individuality of the other but actually seeks to cultivate it.

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When Anger Hurts Your Relationship: 10 Simple Solutions for Couples Who Fight - Kim Paleg, Ph.D. & Matthew McKay, Ph.D. - Both authors are practicing clinical psychologists and coauthors of Couple Skills. They pinpoint pain and a resulting sense of helplessness as the roots of anger. By outlining individuals' and couples' basic cycles of hurt and anger, they expose the cracks in the armor and the methods of breaking the cycles. Focusing on preventing escalation, managing anger when it arises and repairing the situation after an old pattern takes hold, they espouse a one-day-at-a-time process of swearing off anger, learning de-escalation tools and regaining trust

Larry's Review: Do you long for intimacy again! Stop fighting! BOTH of you must read this book!
When Anger Hurts Your Relationship

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Want a change in the intimacy department? It is our desire to present accurate information that will add a little spice to your life and promote health and happiness in your relationship.

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